Gaffe or gaffay or gaff?

Customer service complaint number 456. I hate that we are always handed one menu when we go to places that are tres mehengi (expensive). I used to think it was because Nitin is a man (grrr) and waiters assumed he'd order. Last night, during a girls' night with my two P-pals (Padmini and Pavani) we were handed only one menu. Why they do that?